How to Find and Be a Good Roommate


We’ve all heard the horror stories… Heck, even Buffy the Vampire Slayer had a tough time finding a roommate in college. But the important thing is she eventually found one (shout out to Willow!) - There are few easy things you can do to both find a good roommate, and more importantly be a good roommate.


How to Find a Good Roommate

  1. Be open minded and flexible

  2. Ask the important questions up front - and be willing and open to compromise. Here are a few topics we suggest discussing in person to see if you’d be a good fit.

    Why Are You Looking for a New Place?

    What Are Your Biggest Roommate Pet Peeves?

    Pets? Allergies?

    What Is Your Idea of Clean?

    Are We Going to Be A “Labels On EVERYTHING'“ Household? Or Are We Sharing?

    How Often Will We Host Friends? Overnight Guests?

  3. Keep an open flow of communication - we suggest reaching out to at least five people a day to increase your chances of finding a roommate quicker.

How to Be a Good Roommate

  1. Say ‘thank you’

    This may sound like a given, but being appreciative of the person you share your space with can go a long way.

  2. Do your share

    This might also seem like a given, but if you expect your roommate to do all of the cleaning, pay all of the bills, etc. you’ll quickly discover that simply won’t work.

  3. Be mindful of your space

    This includes your belongings - try to keep the common areas clean. Just as important, be aware of the noise you make and how that can affect those around you. While we totally understand that watching re-runs of Buffy is often therapeutic - make sure to keep the volume down and not disturb your roommate’s sleep schedule.

  4. Exercise empathy

    We all experience the occasional blues or a tough day at work. Try to be kind and cut them some slack when needed. If they’re super stressed doing their dishes or leaving a nice note will go a long way. But if being busy is more of a lifestyle and a “hectic week” turns into a reoccurring excuse, this rule no longer applies. 

  5. Respect their space and belongings

    Again, seems like a no brainer. But we cannot stress this enough - treat people how you want to be treated, and don’t mess with people’s stuff!!!

  6. Split costs and responsibilities

    Using tools like Splitwise and Venmo will help keep track of your expenses as well as ensure that the bills are being paid fairly. Set agreements on who does what (and when!) and it should be smooth sailing.

Danielle Oppendike